The method I used to help people overcome low self esteem is called Clean Language. The facilitator (me) helps a client explore what’s happening for them. We focus mainly on what they would like to have happend and resources that help that. The Clean Language method is so good at focusing on the good stuff and the exploring that helps find the good stuff, that powerful results can happen.
I won’t be blogging about self-esteem any more but I continue to develop my skills at Clean Language which can help in a variety of areas. If you have an issue you’d like to work on, you are welcome to contact me and we can talk about me or another coach using Clean Language to help you.
Harald Rothermel, www.awaykening.net, gives feedback on a one hour session of Clean Language, which was the second time we’d spoken.
Clean Language session with brian birch 30-11-2011
“about my experience with Clean Language:
I was really surprised by how effective this work is. my impression is that through the process I am totally focused with myself, the facilitator supports this through Clean Language. the absence of tips and suggestions lets me be focused in that, that is really me.
it´s like going along a way directly into the center of my problem/challenge. and then simultaneously a way out of it shows up. in my case a very concrete way that inspires me to walk along. and also one that is my size and sort of made for me by me, with the indispensible help of the facilitator.
I have the idea for a long time already that the secret is in simplicity. I see Clean Language as a very simple and uncomplicated way of coaching and focusing in what the person really wants, I mean exactly what the person wants. it helps to stay conscious with myself all the time.
in other coaching tecniques I´ve experienced I go often into my head and check aspects and ideas with my head, but in truth it´s not my mind that knows what is right and proper for me, it´s my heart, and that´s where Clean Language kicks in.
about brian:
yesterday I received empathy from you [Brian used the technique of Non-Violent Communication with Harald for 30 minutes] and I was delighted by how you asked me things or needs that I might fulfill that were actually what I want. in the end the I had come up with a concrete strategy to change the circumstances that are painful at the moment.
today in the Clean Language session you conducted me through the difficulty I have been experiencing and into a new perspective and doable, concrete way out of it. I am m really keen on training, in fact, I am doing it already….
I could experience how you were present and focused in the process going on. I see a great capacity of Clean Language being of useful service to people.”
About 2 weeks later:
hi again. going to bed now. good noght. i am fine by the way. yours and joshuas contributions were just so valuable to my life. thank you.
Brian Birch says
I learned almost all my Clean Language from the Clean Change Company. I have thoroughly enjoyed the training and am impressed with the expertise with which Wendy Sullivan has taught us. I was able to facilitate Harald based on what I learned from Wendy’s courses. If you would like to learn how to facilitate or coach using Clean Language, I recommend starting with joining Wendy’s taster teleclass.
I am a self-esteem life coach and I use simple questions and your words to ask about your story, like in the questions above. Sooner or later it creates insights and you can see your opportunities and choices. It’s easy to reject other people’s advice. Sometimes you may not trust yourself. But if you keep looking for what’s true, you’ll soon experience the best your life can offer.
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What do I do?
I coach people to overcome their low self-esteem and achieve what they want in their life.
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I can keep beside you in conversation as you discover your situation and the associated feelings, thoughts, bodily sensations and metaphors. We’ll discover blocks, impasses and then new experiences, hidden help and resources.
I don’t want to treat you as if you are the same as everybody else so all I’ll assume is that you’d like something new to happen. I’ll work with simple questions so I can follow what’s going on for you. We will agree how to work together and how not to; what my role needs to be and what you need to be like. It all begins with “What would you like to have happen?”.
Brian Birch
Self-esteem Life Coach, Brian@overcoming-low-self-esteem.com
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